Self-concept and Self-esteem






As a child grows he gradually learns that he is a separate being and not just an extension of his/her mother. This knowledge of him having a separate entity is called his self. He learns that he has a separate body and he gradually learns that he also has a distinct mind that thinks, feels and behaves not according to his /her mother but “simply differently”. The child cherishes this distinctive self which he has newly discovered. He also starts to accommodate and integrate various aspects of society and the norms of that society into his newly discovered self.

The development of self is also facilitated by the society when it gives the growing child a notion that “you” are nice, this is “your” toy, I like “you”. The same remarks are then converted as “I am nice”, “this is my toy” and slowly the emergence of the self takes place and gradually consolidates. Self-concept then includes all you have and denotes your identity. The sentence “I know that I have a family, a house and a nice job. I earn pretty good to keep my family happy” reflects your self-concept. 


However, the self not only has such notions as “mine” and “yours” or “theirs” but also the qualities such as “good me” “bad me” and so on. Development of self largely depends on what kind of information one receives from different “agents” of one’s society such as parents, peers, teachers and his other important people.

The feedback given to him especially about his self by the society is incorporated into the self, especially the information about how good or bad, efficient or inefficient, desirable or undesirable, good or bad looking, worthy or unworthy, he or she is. These information start to get integrated into the self and ultimately these feedback become the ingredient of his gradually emerging self - self-concept.

Self-concept is then the mirror of what he learns about his self from the society, good or bad, worthy or unworthy etc.

Society’s positive or negative feedback about himself then becomes a glass through which the child sees him-self.

Self-esteem is then how you evaluate your “self”. Just for example we evaluate the qualities in the cellphone we use, we also evaluate how we are. This reflects the concept of self-esteem.

In this article we will attempt to explore much deeper into the concept of self-esteem because as we will learn it has a huge implication on your overall health.

Many people have given their own definition to the word. Generally, they all come to a point where they agree that self-esteem is the emotional evaluation of their own worth by themselves. Self esteem generally prevails when we feel happy and satisfied about who we are. The true worth of being someone can only be reflected through self-esteem. It helps us answer an important question in life which is "How do I feel about who I am?"

 Low self esteem may be a result of has a lot of negative impacts in life. The bottom line is that your mind becomes somewhat programmed to produce and carry biased thoughts.

Individual with a high self-esteem people have a strong positive outlook towards themselves and towards the world. We usually find them holding a lot of passion and pride for what they do and how they do it. These people aren’t necessarily narcissists, but they do value life more than anything.

At Center for Psychological Health & Emotional Wellbeing Pvt. Ltd. (CPH-Nepal), we try to educate people why they have low self-esteem and how to increase their self-esteem. We have training classes and train individuals to promote their wellbeing and confidence in themselves by raising their self-esteem.